7 Reasons for Baby Offensive Behavior

The child is not so afraid of serious difficulties, when in his family he can find protection from the outside world, satisfy the need for affection, love and care. The more terrible and hurtful for him the situation when the offenders are the same adults, on whose support he used to count.

In such moments there is no place to go for help and no one to lean on. The baby experiences all his pain inside himself, and offenses of this kind tend to seriously spoil the life of an adult.

What situations are most offensive to the baby?

1. When Baby is underrated
It's not necessarily a public flogging. It is enough that the mother scolds and chastises the baby in front of strangers, on the street or the playground. Physical punishment in itself traumatizes the baby, and even more humiliating in public.

Tip: Do you know the rule of successful leaders - praise in front of everyone, scold in private? It is worth applying it to children to become even more “successful” parents.

2. When the child is not heard
The baby is crying because something has broken, something is not going well in his little life. And mom swears that the child is capricious. And he is frightened, because his mother does not understand him and cries even more, and his mother, accordingly, is even more angry and screams. And only an adult can break this enchanted circle if he tries to see behind the whims of a child the need for help, care and love.

Tip: the next time your child is cranky or torments you with his questions and complaints, play a game: “What does my child really want?” The result will probably surprise you.

3. When the child is disturbed
In such situations, the baby is compared not in his favor with other children, in each act they find what the child could do better and it always comes out that whatever the child does, he still “did not reach” – to praise, recognition and acceptance by adults.

Tip: appreciate and respect what your baby does, commensurate with the effort expended and his age capabilities. Before you complain, praise. And remember, in every situation where your child could do “better”, in your power to be a little more correct, kinder and wiser.

4. When the child is deprived of the right to error
It is clear the desire of parents to protect their baby from troubles and injuries. But a child’s safety and health is not the same as punishment for misdemeanors, crumpled and torn clothes, broken dishes, and poor judgment. Mom’s favorite expression: “And I told you !” is probably one of the most hated phrases in children.

“Advice: when a child comes to you with a broken knee or says that he has lost a new mobile phone, hug him and rejoice ! Be glad that he will still trust you and is ready to come to you with any trouble, and not to strangers or suspicious companies.”

5. When you don’t care about child labor
Well, to be honest - yes, this postcard made by a child - a hare with a half-glued ear and two eyes on the right - well, why do you need it?

And for what your child did ! He put all his skills, all his strength and part of a small soul into it. Of course, against the background of material gifts, the card costs three pennies. It was made with the love of your child. And this is invaluable.

Tip: Get a box and store in it the most interesting and funny crafts. Show them to family and friends and treat them like real treasures. Maybe one day you’ll throw them away.

6. When they make bad noises, they laugh, they hurt.
Often parents ridicule some feature of the child - clumsiness, slowness, enthusiasm for some business, and sometimes they literally put a stigma on the child: "this is a crybaby, not a man, a future loser", "and this is not a girl, but a boy in a skirt ... how will he look for a husband?" The child is hurtful and completely incomprehensible - what did he deserve? Many children are very vulnerable and painful to such situations. Especially if their features are congenital and depend on the temperament and character of the child.

Tip: remember that the desire to make fun of others speaks of the need to assert yourself at someone else’s expense. If so, it is better to consult a specialist for more competent help than to increase self-esteem at the expense of your baby.

7. When parents don't hold the word and keep promises
It was like going to the park or buying a new book. Well, they didn't, but that's not the worst thing, is it? On the scale of global catastrophes – no, for a child’s sense of trust to mom and dad – yes. The ability to bring the requirements to the end is one of the main rules for raising children and the quality of truly wise and competent parents.

Always do what you promised. Or don't promise at all.

Let us try to imbue ourselves with the idea that we are the dearest people in the world to our children, and believe that it is in our power to make sure that in their beginning life there are as few tears, experiences and bitter grievances caused by us as possible.