Speaking about the punishment of children, many represent slaps, deprivation of sweets and entertainment or a severe reprimand. But, the main purpose of punishment is to teach the child to be responsible for his actions. The child from an early age captures cause-effect relationships, thanks to which his logic develops. But, there is no logic in the fact that for a spoiled suit or hysteria of the baby put in a corner. The most useful punishment for a child is the opportunity to feel the consequences of his actions, and thereby learn responsibility.
Instead of raising your voice at the child and punishing him with a slap for misconduct, give him the opportunity, at least in part, to feel the consequences of his action. Of course, this should be done taking into account the age and taking care of the safety of the baby.
In order for a child to learn to respect other people, it is necessary to give him respect. Unfortunately, in our culture it is customary to teach children to respect adults, the elderly. But, the main thing is to teach the child to respect himself, and then he will treat others with respect. It is important to show him that he is a man, even if he is small, and therefore he is already worthy of respect. Thus, he learns how to treat himself and the people around him. The best way to teach a child this is from the first days to respect him, his desires, emotions and needs.
Unfortunately, in modern culture, many parents teach their children to consume rather than create. You can look at the dreams of many modern people, and combine them into one - consumption. What do many people want today? New smartphone, house, car, a lot of money, things, other purchases. It does not bring happiness and does not lead to success. The child will learn to consume himself, but if you teach him to create, create, he will grow up a happy and successful person.
Many successful parents involve children in the process of creation from an early age. It is necessary to show the child that growing a tree is much more interesting than eating the fruits already prepared. It is necessary to make it clear to the child that everything that is in our world was created by someone, and this should not stop. Help the child to love the process of creation, not consumption, and he will achieve much in this life.
4. Expression of wishes and needs
Often you can observe such a picture - tired, emotionally and physically, the mother of a one-year-old child, reflexively tries to calm the cry of the baby, tries to guess his desire and offers alternately, one thing or another. When parents try to guess the needs of their child under the age of one year - this is normal, but during the active development of speech, it is unacceptable. If the baby from an early age gets used to the fact that others guess his desires and needs, in adulthood he will be deeply unhappy in the relationship. Such a child will expect from others all his life that they will guess his desires and needs, but this will not happen, and the pain in the soul will only increase. Such children feel lonely, unloved and unnecessary in adulthood. Therefore, it is important from an early age to teach the child to clearly and clearly say what he wants and what he needs.
5. Managing emotions
Often parents unconsciously teach their children to be ashamed of emotions, to suppress them. But, it is important to teach the child to manage them, and not to restrain and be ashamed. Many psychological problems in adulthood are associated with
emotional problems of childhood. Do not scold your child for manifestations of violent emotions, patiently explain to him what and why he feels. Instilled from an early age awareness of emotions and a personal example of managing them, will help the baby in adulthood to own himself and control his feelings.
6. Opinion and position
It is important to teach the child to reflect and form his personal opinion and position in various situations. To do this is very simple - developing logic and thinking in a child, respects his opinion and positions. Not as in the anecdote: “Seven, of course, you must have your own opinion, and now your mother will tell you.” No, the child should form his own opinion and position regarding different things, and if you want to direct the child’s thinking in the right direction, do it with the help of a personal example.
7. The ability to survive failures
Every person’s life consists of failures and victories. But, it is important to teach the child to cope with defeats, to survive them and rising to go further. It is necessary to prepare the child for the fact that he can not always be the first, and there is nothing wrong with this. The excellent student complex often brings suffering and causes people to break down in adulthood. But if in early childhood to allow the child to be imperfect, if he despite everything receives parental love and acceptance, he can easily experience failure and no fall will not force him to rise.
8. The ability to forgive
Resentment, hatred, desire for revenge are destructive emotions that should not be present in a person’s life for a long time. Yes, we cannot completely eliminate these emotions from our lives, but we must learn to let them go easily. It is very easy to teach a child to forgive – just give him your forgiveness, and apologize when you are wrong. The child should understand that he lives in a world of imperfect people, and not perceive the mistakes of other people, and their own, as something terrible. It is natural to make mistakes because no one is perfect.
Not all adults are capable of caring as much as possible. But many expect this attitude towards themselves. So that the child does not suffer in the future, you should teach him to take care. In adulthood, the child will build relationships with other people, with his spouse, and it is important that he knows how to take care of the people around him, and not just expect it from them. Harmonious relationships are built on mutual care, respect and understanding.
How to teach a child to care? At an early age, it is necessary to encourage manifestations of care, as well as show personal example. A child, even a small one, can feed pigeons or a homeless cat, share his candy with a friend, carefully hide a “sleeper” in a box with toys, a bear. These are the first manifestations of care that should be encouraged and developed.
10. Love of reading
The benefits of reading today know almost everything It is the best way to develop and receive information. Most kids today don’t like reading. This is logical. In our age, there are many other ways to get information without straining the brain. Video on the Internet, television - it is necessary to limit, and instill a love of reading. Choose the right books for your child, preferring interesting, not useful. When a child loves the process of reading, he will choose useful books, and only interesting ones.
Don’t expect the school to raise your child. Don’t expect him to learn to live well. All the most important child should learn from his parents and then his future will be happy and filled with success